mixing it up

so i spent a long weekend at J's to ring in the new year and celebrate our anniversary. one year of laughter, snuggles and awesome sex. i've resolved that 2011 will be full of more snuggles and more sammiches :)

i made out a to do list beforehand because i had 2.5 days between my family christmas trip and going to J's. i managed to get everything done only slightly behind schedule. 20 minutes after arriving, i realized i'd forgotten to pack a few essentials. at the precise moment my boy is telling me how much he wants to get me in bed, i remember my little bag of condoms is still at my place... two hours away. along with my lubes and wipes. guess i was in a bit of a hurry :p J doesn't really buy condoms; he never thinks about it apparently. so i'm usually the one who carries them. when i told this to N, he said "i believe it's the boy's job to have condoms" "do you carry condoms?" "(insert implied 'oh, honey') i'm a bottom" and there was much laughing. i love my bestie. luckily, there was a condom leftover from the last time i was there. not long after that, i was on my side, squealmoaning. being perpendicular to J was different and fantastic; he seemed to hit all new spots. i came hard and fast

after, we ate and watched a movie, which conveniently ended with just enough time to flip over for the ball drop. yay for kissing in the new year... and more movies. we watched the documentary about maynard james keenan's vineyard. or, really, J watched, and i dozed off. we headed to bed and another round of fun. new thing two: playing with my clit while J fingers me. i got right to my spot, and J thought it was super hot. turning him on turns me on so i gave him head after that. there was even a little tits + cock action. no, he didn't come on my chest... then it was bed time :) saturday, we hit up the BJ's to get stuff for dinner and condoms. unfortunately, they only carry trojan, which i hate. i'm a durex girl all the way. we swung by the grocery store who also didn't carry durex. i begrudgingly grabbed a 12 pack of the trojan lubricated. i had to pee, and didn't really want to waste time going to a third store. however, i'll be damned if i'm gonna buy the $2 more "for her pleasure" condoms. it's all LIES

we putzed and talked to his roomie, S, for a bit before making dinner. total schmoopfest, but making dinner together was my favorite part of the whole weekend. i also made delicious cupcakes while we watched donnie darko. it's the movie that brought us together in the first place. S left so i suggested a shower. of course, J amused himself by getting me off for a few minutes in the living room. then, because his shower wasn't quite big enough, he bent me over the bathroom sink. i seriously love getting nailed from behind. so glad the roomie went out so i could be as loud as i wanted ;) we still took a shower, but it was slightly less interesting just getting clean :p later i ended up passing out while watching tv, and J stayed up until the buttcrack of dawn

sunday, J made yummy french toast for breakfast, and we watched football all day. sundays are my favorite :) there is no fooling around during football; i like to yell at the tv. after the late game, i headed to bed assuming J would be right behind me. nope. he started watching sports center. then he got into a ridiculous conversation with S when he got home. apparently, some drunk chick tried to pick him up for a one night stand. he declined. J finally crawled into bed, but i was in the middle of stuffs. he went back out for a few minutes, and, by the time he was back, i was done. time to get naked again! i think it is so sexy when he undresses me, even if he fumbles with my strings and clasps. there was much making out, stripping and some anal play. it took all my willpower not to hop on his dick sans condom. first i was on top. then he was on top. thanks to the awful trojan condom, J had to stop before cumming. i blew him, and we snuggled. monday, i had planned to give him a wake up fuck, but i overslept. there was not enough time to wake him and get us both off before he had to leave for work. *shrug* i didn't need one last fuck; we'd been having great sex the entire rest of the weekend

in between all the playing around, there was more schmoop and ridiculousness. i got my snuggles and sammiches. i also got my reassurance that i wouldn't end up a leg lamp this year. i wish i could share our conversation, but the crazy comments were coming too fast. rapid fire ridiculousness is what i keep calling it. all i can say is: "i love that after a year together, we can joke about killing each other." me, too, honey. me, too :)

lacking?

so there's been no anal in the last couple months, and i'm starting to feel a little guilty. it's hard to make it a once a month thing when you only see each other once a month. and sometimes during those visits i'm not in the mood, still remembering the ouch or so bloated/gassy i could float away. i never really give J an explanation; i just state clearly that my ass is off limits. do i owe him an explanation? should we discuss this more thoroughly? does it really matter that anal's off the table more often than on? i get the impression that J is disappointed when we don't go there. granted, i told him before it was not an every time thing. that includes all anal penetration. yea, it can be nice, but i really don't want to every single time. partly because he can get carried away and hurt me. he does, however, respond very well to an "ouch". partly because i freak out about sanitation and make him wash his hands immediately after we're done. i don't want him touching anything (me, the sheets, whatever) until he's touched some soap and water. partly because he gets more out of it than i do. yes, i have orgasms from anal stimulation, but not solely from anal and not from the entire anal area. if we go penis in ass, i never feel quite finished. it's kinda the same way i feel about being on top. if i'm at just the right angle, he'll be done in minutes and i won't have even peaked... and now i'm linking things. since the moratorium on anal, J hasn't been on top once. no, doggy doesn't count... i wouldn't care except, before, it used to be almost 50/50

i'm not dissatisfied with our sex life; i'm annoyed. not quite sure what to do with that. feeling guilty about the lack of anal sex is pushing me further towards annoyed. it's self inflicted guilt, but i have a knack for displacing... i guess i'm just curious as to what changed, when and why. cause i'd like my predictability back

[babe, i know you're gonna read this and get all poutyface. we can talk about it; just needed to brain dump]

new tricks

"there are 29 positions. how many do you think we could get through in a week?" J

the other day, women's health mag tweeted a link to an article on "new" sex positions. naturally, i shared it with J, and we both clicked through to find all the ones we'd actually done. i didn't total up our count (for once), but i did have comments. some of the list amused me (seashell: the average person is not that flexible); some annoyed me (tap dance: i really dislike this). overall, the list was mostly things i'd aleady seen elsewhere or actually done. i'm not really a fan of these guides because they're geared towards couples who are evenly matched in height and weight. well, i'm a short girl dating a big guy. there will be no standing, churning or wheelbarrowing if i'm involved

so i'm throwing this out to the gallery. what's your favorite position? do you make any modifications for you and/or your partner?